Frequently asked questions
Find answers to some of the most common questions about family mediation, MIAMs and the mediation process. Whether you’re considering mediation, preparing for your first meeting or wondering what happens next, our FAQs provide helpful information to guide you through the process and help you understand your options.
What is family mediation?
Family mediation is a process that helps people resolve family disagreements with the support of an impartial mediator. It provides a structured environment where you can discuss important matters, improve communication and work towards practical solutions that suit your family’s needs.
What is a MIAM?
A Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) is an initial meeting with a family mediator. It gives you the opportunity to explain your circumstances, understand how mediation works and explore whether it is suitable for your situation.
Do I have to attend a MIAM before mediation?
A MIAM is usually the starting point for family mediation. It allows the mediator at to understand your circumstances and assess whether mediation may be appropriate. The requirements can depend on your situation and the legal jurisdiction involved.
Do I attend the MIAM with the other person?
No. A MIAM is usually an individual meeting between you and the mediator. This gives you an opportunity to discuss your circumstances privately, ask questions and understand your options before deciding whether to proceed with mediation.
What happens during a MIAM?
During your MIAM, the mediator will discuss your situation, explain how mediation works, answer your questions and assess whether mediation may be suitable. You can talk about the issues you would like to resolve and what you hope to achieve.
How long does a MIAM take?
A MIAM typically takes around 45 to 60 minutes, although the exact length may vary depending on your circumstances and the mediators arrangements.
What happens after my MIAM?
Following your MIAM, you will have a clearer understanding of whether mediation is right for you. If mediation is suitable and you wish to continue, the mediator can explain how joint sessions may then be arranged and what will happen next.
What can Family Mediation help with?
Family Mediation can help with a range of issues, including:
Arrangements for children and parenting responsibilities
Where children live and how they spend time with each parent
Communication and decision-making following separation
Financial arrangements and the division of assets
Property, housing and future living arrangements
Other family disagreements that need to be resolved
Do both people have to agree to mediation?
Mediation is voluntary, and both people need to be willing to participate. While one person can make the initial enquiry or attend a MIAM independently, joint mediation generally requires both parties to agree to take part.
How many mediation sessions will I need?
The number of sessions depends on your circumstances, the issues you need to resolve and how discussions progress. Some families reach agreements in a few sessions, while others may need more time to work through complicated matters. Your mediator will help you understand what may be required for your situation.
What does a family mediator do?
A family mediator is an impartial professional who helps people communicate, explore options and work towards agreements.
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The mediator does not take sides, make decisions for you or tell you what arrangements you must agree to. Their role is to guide discussions and help you make informed decisions.
Is family mediation confidential?
Family mediation is generally confidential, allowing you to discuss your circumstances in a private and supportive environment. However, confidentiality has limits, including certain safeguarding and legal obligations.
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Your mediator will explain the confidentiality arrangements before your meeting so you understand how your information is handled.
What happens if we reach an agreement?
If you reach an agreement during mediation, the outcomes can be recorded in writing so that everyone has a clear understanding of the arrangements.
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Depending on the matters involved, you may wish to obtain independent legal advice about your agreement and whether it should be formalised.
What happens if we cannot agree?
Mediation does not guarantee that every issue will be resolved. If you cannot reach an agreement, you can still take forward the matters you have agreed on and consider other options for the remaining issues.
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Your mediator can explain the next steps available to you.
Is mediation suitable for everyone?
Mediation may be helpful for many families, but it is not suitable for every situation. The mediator will consider your circumstances, safety, ability to participate and whether mediation is an appropriate way to resolve your issues.
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If mediation is not suitable, alternative options can be discussed.
Do I need a solicitor for family mediation?
You do not usually need a solicitor to attend mediation. The mediator helps you discuss issues and explore possible agreements.
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However, you may wish to obtain independent legal advice before, during or after mediation, particularly when discussing financial agreements, property or agreements concerning children.
How much does family mediation cost?
The cost of mediation depends on the type of appointment, the number of sessions required and the issues being discussed.
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Please contact 1st for Mediation or use our booking system to find out more about our current fees and appointment options.
How do I get started?
A MIAM is the first step towards family mediation and can be booked directly through our website or by contacting us. If you’re unsure whether mediation is right for you, we also offer a free initial telephone call to answer your questions and help you understand your options.
How much does family mediation cost?
The cost of mediation depends on the type of appointment, the number of sessions required and the issues being discussed.
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Please contact 1st for Mediation or use our booking system to find out more about our current fees and appointment options.